I’ll just leave this here: Manifesto by Cain

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I leave Introvert Awareness Month by sharing a Manifesto on the power of Introversion by one of the world’s most public Introverts, Susan Cain. Lots of people write about Introversion, but Cain has the big picture vision. And that is why she has been able to communicate with so many people, helping lots of us see ourselves as part of a bigger network of thinky types, in a bigger sea of fellow Intros than we may have imagined.  Thanks Susan!

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Why people think Introverts have nothing to say (& why I correct people who rush me)

 

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This situation sends me into Fight or Flight, yet it happens every day. Like everyone else, I have to accept the fact that to the unaware eye, the path my brain takes to deeper, varied locations, before offering a verbal answer, looks like I have no input. Helgoe points to studies showing the path our brains take when responding to outside stimuli-it really is longer, lighting up deeper and more varied parts of the brain. It doesn’t by any means say we are smarter. It does point to the fact that we gather more information before speaking.

I had never seen an explanation of this kind of exchange written down, before Helgoe. I had to make a meme of her quote. I think it is an excellent, step-by-step description, of what we face when talking with extremely talkative extroverts.

The problem is, we can understand this, as we seek to understand why we get cut off all the time, rushed through complex thoughts and told to hurry by people who just took 5 minutes verbalizing a minute of relevant content. The people who need to understand why we often answer more slowly, however, will often brush the entire thing off to over-sensitivity or us not being aggressive enough.

Intros on the spectrum tend to ask “why?” a lot and “what if?”, which is why we tend to do more research into introversion. I’m pretty sure many extroverts don’t know they are extroverts. Which may be why so many claim to be introverts ;p

When we do cut off a person telling us to hurry, as I had to at a retreat this weekend, it throws us off our thought and it takes longer to get back on track. This even goes for visual clues, like rushing your hands in a circular motion. People also think we are rude-to counter-interrupt an interrupter.

So, if you want us to speed up, don’t interrupt to tell us so: We may have been done by the time your interruption was over. We let you talk it out, because that is how you think. If you give us a minute to process your words, you may find we have something to add to the conversation.

Just sayin’ 😀

Introvert Awareness Month

I’m late! I’m late! For a very important date!

Apparently, someone somewhere decided that January 2nd is World Introvert Day. I’m voting for the entire month of January to be Introvert Awareness Month. With that in mind, I had the intent of sharing a new Introvert related meme or quote each day. I noticed a typo on introvertday.org (“Let your friends now about World Introvert Day”). And then Life happened.

So, today is the 7th and I figure, heck, there is a fair amount of January left if I hop on my own bandwagon and get to work. I will be sharing 7 memes today and another daily for the rest of the month. Most of the memes posted, I have created. You won’t see the standard images already in heavy rotation. Instead, the graphics here will dive deeper into Introversion than our need for alone time or dislike of group work.

First off, I’ll start with a beautiful little illustration by Gemma Correll. Until the next post, I’ll be floating down the River of Daydreams…

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