If it makes you feel bad, it is not good for you

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Many people force themselves to stay in situations no longer serving them. Sometimes, we have little choice-a job or a place to live for example. But if something  consistently leaves you wishing you were something else or that someone would understand your ideas if you were only louder, more charismatic, a better networker, etc , it may be time to work towards something that values your strengths.

This is true for jobs, housing, relationships, groups you volunteer with etc. If you feel like you need to be someone else to be valued, leave. Or start planning your escape. We do our best work when we are loved and valued. Why put up with anything less in the long term?

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Keep it simple…

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Followed by Shushes…

 

socialintrovertstumblerMany of us have more to say than we voice outloud. Sometimes, we get talking amongst people we sense will listen and understand us. Sometimes we are right and our words do not fall on the wrong ears. Often enough, our brave moment sharing our inner thoughts, results in a room of people staring at us, dumbfounded. Either way, contrary to popular opinion, we can talk your face off.

And then we STFU.

Why the Crazies talk to us on the bus…

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(and how many of us date and friend people who may not be be able to give back what we give them so easily.)

MLK and Rosa Parks: We Need BOTH

Parks and MLKThank you Ms. Parks for being quietly rowdy. Thank you Martin Luther King Jr for swaying a nation with your words. Thank you both for your actions.

I never thought of Martin Luther King Jr as an Extrovert or Rosa Parks as an Introvert. Susan Cain makes a compelling argument for our society’s need for both “types” on the spectrum-One without the other makes true Progress more difficult. Introverts have a tremendous amount to say and much influence to give. And sometimes we need someone Shiny, boisterous and able to sway a crowd to get our point across.

No such thing as over-thinking.

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It is barely tolerable, how many people freely say we are “too sensitive”, when they are, in fact, insensitive. But we would never walk around, telling everyone insensitive that they are such-because we are sensitive to their feelings even if they cannot tolerate ours.

Whatever the f*ck you want

Today I watched the documentary “The Punk Singer” about one of my childhood sheros, Kathleen Hanna.

I’m not sure how she identifies: I imagine as an Extrovert but she has definitely become more Introverted over the years, due to health concerns and lyme disease. She even created the Julie Ruin album alone, in her bedroom. But Kathleen is still a force to be reckoned with and has words that can inspire.

I’m including a little homemade meme of her quote, because she is an Extrovert that can inspire the quietest of feminist and womanist leaning Intros. She uses her Outgoing for Awesome. And fear of criticism stops us from growth, even if the critic is ourselves.

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(Still from “Oh Come On” video by Julie Ruin)

Speaking of, check out the blog by an Introverted RiotGrrrl @QuiotGrrrl, who is having her very own Quiet Rrrevolution.

http://quiotgrrrl.com/why-quiotgrrrl/