If it makes you feel bad, it is not good for you

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Many people force themselves to stay in situations no longer serving them. Sometimes, we have little choice-a job or a place to live for example. But if something  consistently leaves you wishing you were something else or that someone would understand your ideas if you were only louder, more charismatic, a better networker, etc , it may be time to work towards something that values your strengths.

This is true for jobs, housing, relationships, groups you volunteer with etc. If you feel like you need to be someone else to be valued, leave. Or start planning your escape. We do our best work when we are loved and valued. Why put up with anything less in the long term?

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This New Year’s Eve, be Selectively Social

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Everyone has differing ideas of how to spend New year’s Eve; Partying with friends and strangers, watching other cities ring in the year with your closest pet pals. I’ll be spending time with a small number of people on the Oregon Coast.

No matter what you choose, if you do choose to be social tonight, remember it is perfectly fine to pick and choose who you spend time with. Even for an overly social event like tonight.

I’ll just leave this here: Manifesto by Cain

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I leave Introvert Awareness Month by sharing a Manifesto on the power of Introversion by one of the world’s most public Introverts, Susan Cain. Lots of people write about Introversion, but Cain has the big picture vision. And that is why she has been able to communicate with so many people, helping lots of us see ourselves as part of a bigger network of thinky types, in a bigger sea of fellow Intros than we may have imagined.  Thanks Susan!

Power in Introversion (if you know where to look)

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Laurie Helgoe was the first writer I read who described the scientific aspects of the Intro/Extro spectrum. For more on that, this site is super awesome. It examines brain patterns and dopamine vs acetylcholine, or, the two dominant neurotransmitters of extroverts and introverts. Fascinating.

http://introversiondefined.com/

MLK and Rosa Parks: We Need BOTH

Parks and MLKThank you Ms. Parks for being quietly rowdy. Thank you Martin Luther King Jr for swaying a nation with your words. Thank you both for your actions.

I never thought of Martin Luther King Jr as an Extrovert or Rosa Parks as an Introvert. Susan Cain makes a compelling argument for our society’s need for both “types” on the spectrum-One without the other makes true Progress more difficult. Introverts have a tremendous amount to say and much influence to give. And sometimes we need someone Shiny, boisterous and able to sway a crowd to get our point across.

No such thing as over-thinking.

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It is barely tolerable, how many people freely say we are “too sensitive”, when they are, in fact, insensitive. But we would never walk around, telling everyone insensitive that they are such-because we are sensitive to their feelings even if they cannot tolerate ours.